Bad Attitude Blogging

In his post, “Bad Attitude Blogging,” Opinionated Man writes:

I’ve come across countless bloggers that leave a “last post” with an ultimatum in it. Support their blog or they will stop blogging.

OM chalks this up to a sense of entitlement. I disagree. I’ve only seen a couple of bloggers – usually under the age of eighteen – who were so convinced of their own literary superiority that they felt entitled to attention and adoration from readers without first crawling out of their shells to pay attention to others. I see it as an extension of the “Nobody loves me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll go out to the garden and eat worms,” mentality, coupled with complete cluelessness about how blogging works.

That “last post”? That’s the “Goodbye, Cruel World!” cry of a lonely blogger who has not yet figured out that the Internet is full of pretty, shiny, new toys – and we are all hyperactive squirrels. You cannot be meek about blogging; you can’t be shy and give a little wave now and then and quietly chirp, “Hey, remember me? I’m over here in the corner. You know – when you get a spare moment.”

Absolutely you must get out there and read other blogs! Leave your “calling card” – not just a URL, but a thoughtful comment on what another human being is thinking and putting out there for you to think about. Blogging is not a book; it is a conversation carried out across the virtual cafés of the Internet. You must show up on the playgrounds of Facebook and Twitter and Instagram and say, “Hey, want to come over to my place for snacks after the game? I have words!” If content is king, marketing is queen. There is no “Build it, and they will come.” You have to go out there and let folks know you built it. And offer snacks. Snacks are good.

We all hope that the time will come when our readers will tell their friends, their friends will drop by and be delighted by our words, and things will start to snowball. We can just stay here in our happy places and write. Host our own little Enlightenment Salons. Isn’t that a precious thought?

Blogging doesn’t work that way. If there were only ten books, or a hundred blogs, in the world, they’d be coveted and sought after. But there are millions of books and probably a billion blogs, by now… anyone can do it. On Tumblr alone, there are 260.5 million blogs. On WordPress, there were an estimated 50,000 new blogs created each day in 2014. That’s a lot of competition, if you want to look at it that way. How discouraging! OM is right: if that’s how it feels to you, pick a new hobby. Because reading that “Goodbye, Cruel World!” post for the 50,000,000th time doesn’t even faze us, anymore. It’s boring. Skip the ultimatums and go.

But here’s a better blogging attitude: 50,000+ new blogs a day means a nearly endless supply of places to meet new friends, get the word out about your own blog, and gain new readers. That just takes a tiny bit more effort (less than what’s required to craft a good “Farewell to Blogging” post!), but what better to do when you need a break or a way to break a little case of writer’s block?

23 thoughts on “Bad Attitude Blogging”

  1. Do you know you have a big fat black box over part of your blog that wants me to say I agree to the use of cookies? I agree to the EATING of cookies; is that the same thing? Anyway, I’m not clicking Accept, because I’m funny that way. The box is irritating. Pfui. Not clicking.

    1. Google EU Cookie law. I am still on the fence about this. But it didn’t stop you from reading/ commenting. Interesting.

      I’d like to find a good, compliant plugin that only displays if you’re in the Eu, MAKES you agree, then leaves you alone (or stops you from going further). let me know if you hear of a better one.

      1. You only HAVE to IF you are in the EU, or are ”targeting customers in the Eu.” Blogspot has imposed a generic notice. I saw one on twitter the other day. Out of respect for my EU readers, I’d LIKE to comply.

  2. Sorry, couldn’t help laughing. There will always be people who feel an entitlement to something. It is my right to (fill in the blanks) and you cannot stop me from exercising my right to (whatever). Indeed, I cannot but there is something that is called personal choice. It is my prerogative to read your blog or not, to keep reading it or not, and there isn’t a damn thing you can do about that. If you are so arrogant that you think you can control your readers by demanding that they financially (or otherwise) support your blog, you need a kick under the b*** and grow up!

  3. “Blogging is not a book; it is a conversation carried out across the virtual cafés of the Internet”. That’s memorable. I was talking with my new artist friend, the one I’ve been interviewing, and we agreed that a big desire ew both have is to engage in face to face social time… like minded artists having drinks, debating the nuances of art, discussing new ideas, and just generally having a good time. There’s so little of that anymore, at least in my life. Time to engage with people more by focusing in on things I want to read and respond to, avoid the meaningless “thumbs up” click indicating “I read this and acknowledge it but have nothing to say”, and also have REAL conversations in person with real people.

    1. That’s a really good idea, Todd. Blogging is a poor substitute for real face to face time with friends. But sometimes, it’s how friendships start. Sometimes, due to distance, it’s the best we’ve got. If we give it our best.

    1. That isn’t usually the case in such posts. I could write one that was, but it would probably get me in as much trouble as that time I wrote a bad sonnet on purpose so a friend could demonstrate good critique. Readers ran HIM out on a rail, told me I was an awesome poet, and urged me not to let his meanness hurt my self esteem. We were just trying to protect the thin skinned by doing a safe demo of constructive criticism! I still feel bad for my cohort.

  4. I started my first blog in 2004 and have never seen a “good-bye cruel world” blog post! People really do that?! Go figure. I’ve seen people stop blogging or morph their blogs into something different, but never threaten to disappear if no one pays attention to them. I’m alarmed and charmed by the naiveté all at once.

  5. I’ve seen some of those blogs over the years, but I haven’t seen one in a long time. What I keep seeing are people writing their final post, saying they’ve got to go away for one reason or another.

    This is why I always say blogging is hard. It’s hard for some people to find enough to write about, it’s hard for some to even think about writing more than once every 3 months, and they hate that they don’t get many comments. It can bring some people down; it ain’t easy being a writer sometimes…

    1. Yes, and I’ve been glad to see more bloggers running TO something than AWAY from something. I’ve always felt that if it felt like a chore or a struggle, and you weren’t being paid for it, why keep doing it? If there’s no return on investment, do something ELSE. If you did that as a small business owner, people would probably say you were crazy, and odds are your business would fail.

  6. There is an upside, isn’t there, to having so many blogs out there. If I land on one and I don’t like it, there are so many others to choose from. I am happy for those who have chosen me. Also, if my European readers have to agree to the use of cookies, I would like to offer them some Oreos. Best cookies ever baked, next to (homemade) chocolate chip.

    1. Who WOULDN’T agree to OREOS?

      I wish I could offer my readers home-baked cookies. I can only suggest that if they’re really worried about the third-party, probably-stale cookies, they install the Ghostery plug-in and block those little suckers. Which they can totally do here, most likely with little or no loss of functionality.

      I’m certainly not collecting any info with them. Well – okay, in a sense I am, because I have stats on visits, but it’s really anonymous. I’m not following you around the web or anything, going “Eat the cookies. Eat the cookies. Eat the cookies.” LOL

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