It's All a Matter of Perspective | Author Holly Jahangiri
 

Oh, the Irony!

My guest post on Blog Engage, this month – “Drive-by Guest Bloggers” – is about the dangers of accepting guest posts from unknown writers without at least doing a little due diligence to make sure those writers exist and aren’t just using kitchen appliances to mix up bits of Internet flotsam and jetsam to feed the hungry PANDA.

Blog Engage founder, Brian Belfitt, has known me for years. His first and last experience with me guest blogging on his site did not end well. We had a disagreement over in-context text links (e.g., Infolinks, Kontera) – with me claiming that in-context link ads constituted an unauthorized derivative work and demanding he delete my post. He did – quite promptly. The real irony is that my guest post on Blog Engage, this month, highlights a problem with a different kind of derivative work – that produced by article spinners – and how it is sometimes used to trick unwary bloggers into accepting poorly written content with spammy backlinks. Worse yet, that “poorly written” content could actually contain multiple copyright violations.

So, here we are – Brian has shed the in-context text link plug-ins over there at Blog Engage, and has given the whole site a spiffy new make-over. It is now faster and easier to navigate, with enhanced and improved “community” features. Brian has pulled the blog, the social sharing site, and the forums together into a more cohesive whole.  He has graciously kept the door open and the welcome mat out (I was shocked to learn that I even still had an account on the WordPress back-end, after all these years!) and probably thought I was a horrible ingrate, last year, when the in-context text ads were gone and he was offering over $1000 in prizes and I still wouldn’t guest post.

I had other posts and other things to focus on. And then Brian and I got to talking about that, and he showed me this picture of him dressed in pink:http://www.blogengage.com/blogger/sponsor-me-as-i-run-for-the-cure-with-cibc/ I was still protesting the whole “pink” business, but there’s something incredibly charming about a man wearing pink in support of kicking breast cancer’s butt. I resolved then and there to write him another guest post. But then I got sucked into the Surviving the Blog Contest (something I never intended to enter, but was determined to win, once I did). And one thing led to another…

I never did get around to writing that guest post.

Until my friend Abhi sent me over to read Brian’s announcement of February’s Guest Blogging Contest. Eh, well, I was going to do it anyway – might as well do it in February, in the hopes of earning the prize.

How you can help:

Go read my entry:

Drive-by Guest Bloggers: The Dangers of Spun and PLR Content

Read and help me promote it! (And please, email me when you do – it would really help me to count up and keep track of the points, though this isn’t required, by any means.) Points will be awarded as follows:

The Points System

  • Tweets, 50 points per tweet up to a max of 150000 points
  • Linked In Votes, 50 points per vote, up to a max of 150000 points
  • Facebook Likes, 50 points per tweet up to a max of 150000 points
  • Google Plus, 50 points per Plus up to a max of 150000 points
  • Engages at Blog Engage, 100 points per Engage (vote) Unlimited points
  • Comments on Blog Engage Guest Article that provide value, 30 points per comment unlimited points
  • Comments on Blog Engage Story Page that provide value, 40 points per comment unlimited points

Come over to Blog Engage and “chat” with me! (No “good post” comments – remember, “add value” – tell me why you agree or disagree, how the information was helpful to you, ask questions, share your favorite stories about the topic…)

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chilis-lighter-choicesThanks to Klout Perks, I had a better excuse for not cooking on a Friday night than “Not tonight, honey, I’ve got a headache.”

With a $15 gift card from Klout Perks, to try Chili’s new “Lighter Choices,” it was a great excuse. (Add to that the free chips and salsa you can get, just for checking in on Foursquare, and it was one of those “offers you can’t refuse.

We also ordered cheese fries – I tasted a few, and they were good, served sizzling hot in a cute little cast-iron skillet.

chilisJust scan a QR code on the menu to get all of the nutrition information instantly, if you have a smartphone.

You can see that the Healthy Dining selection isn’t shabby – nothing boring about Chili’s new Sweet & Spicy Chicken (shown above) – yes, that was my dinner, and it was even more flavorful than you might expect of a 670 calorie restaurant meal. Everyone who knows me knows how much I like hot peppers – so if you say "habanero,” I’d better at least taste it or I’m going to make fun of you for even mentioning it.

NOT that it burned my lips off, by any means, but the chicken had a nice, tangy heat to it. It might be too much for those who like everything on the mild side, but if you enjoy something a little more flavorful than biscuits and gravy, you’d probably enjoy this entrée just fine. The meat itself was tender, though not especially juicy or flavorful in its own right. It had a slightly springy texture to it, most likely from being frozen or processed. I’m not sure that I’d have enjoyed it much, without the additional flavoring of the spicy, citrusy glaze.

Side dishes included rice and steamed broccoli. The broccoli was very lightly steamed and a bit too well-dusted in salt and pepper – I like it that way, but if I were watching my sodium intake, it would not have been a plus. The rice was fine, but even with a confetti sprinkling of corn and colorful sweet peppers, it was quite bland. I left it, and relieved my son of his steamed broccoli, since it would otherwise have gone to waste. His was just a bit overcooked, so I’m not sure if they intentionally give it a lighter steaming on the Lighter Choices dishes, or they were just in a rush back in the kitchen. I prefer it barely steamed – just enough to bring out that lovely, bright green color and make it slightly tender and moist – but can add my own salt and pepper at the table. 

My husband and son had steak and ribs. My son’s getting a bit spoiled; he likes Omaha steaks and dinners at Fogo de Chao. He orders his meat medium rare, and expects to get it with a “warm, pink center.” He wasn’t disappointed here, and ranked it highly on the “would you order it again?” scale. Yes, he would. I didn’t steal a taste, but it looked wonderful. The ribs on my husband’s plate looked tender enough to fall off the bone, and he enjoyed his dinner, as well.

Service was prompt and attentive, despite its being a busy Friday night. The gift card turned out to be a nice way to entice us back to Chili’s – it’s been a while. I’m sure it won’t be that long until our next visit!

Review

Perspective, as I understand it, is the way we look at everything – from our lives to all the little things that we cherish and hate. We can have either a positive – optimistic – perspective, or a negative – pessimistic – perspective about how things are going to happen.

All of us have different perspectives. Our lives depend on it. For instance: if you think your life is interesting, then your life will be interesting. Or, if you think your life is boring, then it will be boring.

Expectations are our predictions for what will happen in the future, and they are influenced by our perspectives. If you expect the future to be exciting and good, then it will be.

Our perspectives and expectations determine what we do and how we do it. For instance: if you have a positive perspective, then you will not give up on a failure (because you expect to reach success eventually). Let me give you an example from my high school experience: I used to score very well on exams that I expected to do well on. My expectations were positive because I studied or I listened and took notes. If you have good expectations for how you are going to do, it will really help you to improve your performance.

Perspectives

As humans, we tend to become fixated on a certain perspective, when looking at a topic. Changing your perspective or view point (when looking at an issue) is not hard. You just have to try to do it.

You need to be able to change your perspective. For example: If you are a writer, you need to be able to look at an issue from various viewpoints and be able to write on all of them. Are you a blogger? If you are, here is a question for you: Have you tried posting from a side that you disagree with it? For instance: Now, among bloggers, there is a lot of debate going around about the length of posts. If you are a supporter of writing long posts, then try supporting the other side – writing short posts. Think like a person whose perspective is opposite to yours. Being able to look at things from different perspectives also helps you to choose the better side of an argument – and write more persuasive arguments for you own side.

If you hate your job, think about why you hate it. Is it the hours? Is because you get paid less than others? Is it because you hate your boss? Before you get sad or angry about it, just realize that there are at least 100 people in this world who have worse problems. There are worse bosses around the world than yours (be thankful that you didn’t get one of those). If you are unhappy about your salary, then think about a 100 million people around the world who work just as hard as you but get a lot lower salary. Think about it.

What do you hate? Why do you hate it? Try to look it from another perspective. Then, it will be easier for you to dislike it less; maybe you will even find reasons to like it! When I started out with blogging, I really hated spending so much time on marketing or networking (spending time on social media), as there are so many ways to do it. The reasons were simple: I didn’t have much time back then; I didn’t have enough motivation to do it; and I thought it was really a waste of time. But, as time progressed, I realized the importance of marketing one’s own content and networking with people. And I started to work on it. I changed my perspective on both of these activities. And I used a couple of tricks to do it:

  • Dagaloo, a twitter-powered Social Media Game, helped me to increase my motivation to engage with others (basically, to score in this game, you need to network with others).
  • I used social media metrics to motivate me to take action and improve it (although I didn’t want to worry over it because worrying over it will cause more trouble than good).

Do you have a positive outlook?

It is important to have a positive outlook on life. Back when I was blogging with my old blog, I didn’t really have a positive outlook for my blog. I did have great expectations. But, I didn’t reach those expectations since I didn’t blog consistently. That’s also the reason why I started a new blog (And I do have a positive outlook; I have taught myself not to worry over traffic number or subscriber count. I realized that worrying over your traffic numbers will do more harm than good to you. Yes, do think about it. And take action over it. Worrying actually demotivates you a bit and may even take up a lot of your time). Right now, I am happy with what I have. And you should be too. And strive harder to achieve your goal (both of these sound contradictory, but they are really not). You need to be happy with what you have and strive at the same time to get to your goal.

The Key

The Key is to be patient. Try to be versatile in your perspective. Have a positive outlook in life! Be optimistic. If you try harder, you can accomplish it. Also keep high expectations with what you can do! Thanks for listening!

Remember not too long ago when I wrote a review of Bob Sanchez’s Little Mountain, over on TheNextGoal.com? Well, I got my copy straight from Bob – for free. He extended that offer last weekend, but if you missed it, you can still buy the book for just $2.99.

If you have Amazon Prime, you can borrow the book for free on your Kindle, still, just as you would at the library. If you don’t have a Kindle, there’s a Kindle app for your PC – you can still read the book. Or you can just grab a Kindle while you’re at it – just $99 for e-Ink and touch technology:

Okay, I have to do this quick, before Prunebutt catches me – you all know how he and Dave hate my “metablogging.” But the fact is, one of the prizes I won in Weblogbetter’s Surviving the Blog Contest includes a Blog Engage membership – one of those swanky business-level memberships that lets me share the goodies with my friends – each and every month! I have FIVE BLOG ENGAGE ACCOUNTS to give away, this month, along with one Gold membership (for a whole year!!). Here’s how to enter (see, I’m also trying out my nifty new Rafflecopter thingamabob):


a Rafflecopter giveaway

That’s all there is to it! Fun, huh?

If you’re not familiar with Blog Engage, it’s a site that helps you to promote your blog posts – it’s a way to get your latest posts out there in front of a community of active, engaged bloggers and help drive more traffic (that’s “readers” and “eyeballs”) to your blog. And let’s be honest – who really writes a blog just to let it sit there lonely and unread? Whether you’re hoping to generate a little extra spending money or just increase your fame and garner fans, a site like Blog Engage can be really helpful. Just enter for your chance to give it a try – for free!

For even more information and more chances to win, visit OddBlogger and read Abhi Balani’s thoughts on Blog Engage. You can enter there, as well! Maybe he should have included membership in Blog Engage as one of his “signs of a good blogger“!