31 Ways Not to Use Your Blog #FridayReflections

Writing is a meditation. It is the communication, from one mind to another, that which lives entirely within the imagination. It is an act of creation. It is art. It is part of what it means to be human. But as they say, “If a tree falls in the woods, and there is no one around to hear it, does it still make a sound?” Why keep a diary, only to burn it? Why write a book, only to shove it in a trunk and bury it in a landfill? Writing is the attempt of one mind to touch another – perhaps only with the lightest breeze of a passing thought by an open window, or maybe with the spark of an idea that could ignite the soul.

No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main; if a clod be washed away by the sea, Europe is the less, as well as if a promontory were, as well as if a manor of thy friends or of thine own were; any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in Mankind; And therefore never send to know for whom the bell tolls; It tolls for thee.

John Donne, Meditation XVII
English clergyman & poet (1572 – 1631)


I have recently joined a few small(ish) groups of bloggers – not great huge groups devoted to the frenzied and frenetic promotion of their online moneymaking ventures, but mostly old-school writers who enjoy blogging as the medium for sharing their thoughts. One of these groups is called Write Tribe, and this morning, I read a post called, “5 things I’ve learnt from blogging #FridayReflections.” It occurred to me that maybe I knew more about blogging in my first ten years than I forgot in my second decade of it.

This post is now ten years old (originally posted on Windows Live Spaces) – can you believe it? I found it, and wondered if it was still true, today. My reflections, ten years later, are italicized.

31) Spread office gossip. Really – don’t we all get enough of this at the water cooler? Okay, just don’t name names. Unless you have a subconscious desire to watch your career go down in flames.

Or you could ignore this bit of advice and rise to become a media empire; you could go down in the annals of blogging history as the mother of all mommy bloggers. In the end, it’s a sort of Pyrrhic victory that could drive you away from blogging, altogether. 

I do, sometimes, wonder if my colleagues are secretly hurt that I don’t blog about them. We live in a different age, now, don’t we? Do they secretly yearn to be characters in a Dilbertesque world, to lift them from their real-life, Dilbertesque adventures? I have followed my own advice, here, but broken – a hundred times over! – the rule about not Facebook-Friending co-workers, and have had no cause to regret that (yet), despite contentious election year political discourse and free discussion of other hot-button issues on my page. I credit my own cardinal rule for that: NO personal attacks allowed; debate the issues vigorously, if you like, but be respectful of your fellow humans. 

30) Talk about your sex life (unless it’s so interesting it brings out the voyeur in your uptight, grandmotherly church secretary).

Nobody’s sex life is that entertaining to anyone but the participants. But I could still be suckered in by a good fountain pen fetish written in purple prose.

29) Discuss bodily functions and fluids – particularly their odor, color, texture, and frequency. As my teenaged daughter would say, “Eww. Overshare.”

I realize I may be out of step and out of touch on this one, judging by the longevity of sites like “Rate My Poo” and “Rotten.” Carry on…

28) Call your ex a “whore,” a “slut,” a “tool,” a “jerk-off,” a “@#$%” – oh, you fill in the blank. It’s been done; the shock value’s all wrung out of it by now. Besides, wouldn’t it be more fun to let the ex’s current lover find this out for himself or herself?

As true today as ever. “Revenge porn” only makes the sender look like an asshole. Unless the original sender of anatomically correct selfies is a politician, then we can 3D print it and market it as an adult doughnut toss game. 

27) Keep a daily journal of your food intake, household cleaning chores, and other mundane items on your to-do list. Unless you’re competing with Ambien CR and Lunesta for “Best Sleep Aid.”

Obviously, I wrote this before the advent of decent digital photography and did not foresee the meteoric rise in popularity of creative non-fiction as a genre. Remember to share the experience with your readers – don’t just show them the steak, make their mouths water as they smell the perfect char and listen to it sizzle.

26) Post quotes from Uncle Al or Aunt Mildred. Unless they’re particularly pithy quotes from particularly eccentric old relatives, in which case, do entertain and enlighten us. It’s about time we came up with a line of fortune cookies that’d give ol’ Confucious a run for his money.

Better yet, try writing quoteworthy original material. You’ll know you’ve made it to the big leagues if someone lifts your words and sticks them on a photo of fluffy clouds, a double rainbow, or a sunrise.

25) Post a list of your enemies. I mean, why tip ’em off?

Nowadays, they’re likely to form a Reddit subgroup, or anonymously send a link to the FBI and claim you made terroristic threats, or plot your demise on the Dark Web. Really – keep the list under your bed, kill them off in your novel (making sure to change all the names three times prior to publication), and remember that “the best revenge is living well.”  

24) Post pictures of the dust bunnies under your bed. Unless you mount them on colored paper, immortalize them on digital media, Photoshop them, and call them “art.”

Who says dust bunnies don’t make good pets? Well, Plot Bunny‘s not impressed, but your Pet Rock might want someone to cuddle with

Besides, if it worked for Marcel Duchamp, it could work for you and your dust bunnies. Forget I mentioned it.

23) Describe a recent sexual adventure. On second thought… Well, see #30. Only if it’s really interesting. Alternatively, make stuff up.

Why does the word “titillate” make my inner 13-year-old boy chuckle maniacally?

22) Compliment your dog. It’s not as if your dog can read. I guarantee you’ll have more success with a large box of Milk-Bone doggie treats.

Woof! Dogs agree it’s better than dog-shaming. Then again…humans are much more amused by dog-shaming

21) Compliment your cat. See #22. On the other hand… maybe that’s who’s been going through my mail at night. @#$%! “Fluffy!!”

Cats don’t have any concept of shame, despite years of humans trying to humiliate them on the Internet. Cute cats are still hot – probably always will be – but there’s always room for the antics of your pet gecko or African Grey.

20) List 100 things you don’t want anybody to know about you. You know, like, your deepest, darkest secrets and fears. Lay it all out there.

Because who doesn’t want to become a scary urban legend?

19) Post your Top 10 Laws I Want to Break Before I Die, then work your way through the list. Your blog will likely become…evidence.

This holds true of Facebook posts, too. Amazing how many times this one’s been proven since I first wrote it. 

18) Insult your cat. See #21. It’s okay to insult your dog, though. He’s too busy licking his – well, and he can’t read, anyway, now can he?

Cats never forget an insult. Unless you’re holding tuna. 

17) Post Webcam photos of yourself hunched over the computer at night. Look to the left…look to the right…make a funny face…stick out your tongue… It’s been done. They all look alike.

Oh, what the hell – consider this “a challenge.” Prove me wrong. Betcha can’t.

16) Review the manual that came with your computer or the training video from flight school.

Actually, technical writers don’t get enough feedback or promotion. I take this one back. 

15) Describe a class you dropped, and the dead-end job you were not hired for.

In fiction, we have the anti-hero. I’m not sure the world is ready for the anti-résumé, just yet. 

14) Describe your snoring.

I mean, why merely describe it when you can now record it and vlog it? WTF.

13) Rate a public bathroom. No, wait – there are actually some very entertaining Web sites built around this concept. Just make sure to “go” in some interesting places. No one cares what the inside of a port-a-potty looks like. More accurately…we know.

12) Excuse away your daily failures.

Once is enough. The fifth time (in as many months) that I read about your leaping back onto the diet wagon, I stop taking you seriously. Or, as Yoda would say, “There is no try. Do, or do not.” Talk about your struggles, but make a rule for yourself – and your blog: “NO EXCUSES.” Besides, we all have enough of our own. 

11) Offer tips on topics you know absolutely nothing about. Like parenting, if you’re a single, upwardly-mobile, transgendered eunuch. Or a twelve year old who’s ticked off that Daddy won’t pay for a nose-ring. Just because you had parents doesn’t mean you’re qualified to razz the frazzled from the peanut gallery. Go out and get a kid of your own, then tell me how easy it is. (Note to twelve year old jonesing for the nose-ring: Wait on that. I certainly can. No need to prove me right in the next 10-12 years, really. I’m patient.)

Seriously. Maybe this should be #1.

10) Document the growth rate of grass on the front lawn by the number of beers consumed while watching it grow. Especially if you just want to gloat over the government grant you won to study this.

Or, at least, remember the Prime Directive of Elementary School: “Not unless you bring enough to share with the whole class.”

9) Create a Christmas card letter. C’mon, how tacky is it to send out postcards with Santa ho-ho-hoing and your URL printed on the other side? At least set your page to a holiday Theme.

I regret ever writing this.

8) Share a poem of yours. See, I disagree with MSN on this one. Don’t do it. It’s so…yesterday. Share your serialized NaNoNovel, instead. On second thought, that’s pretty yesterday, too.

DO IT. Everything retro is in…again.

7) Tell heartwarming pest stories. You know, like the time you caught that squirrel in the live trap, and had to argue with Uncle Ed over whether to drive 100 miles out to the country to set it free, or euthanize it in the bathtub. Or maybe that one about feeding the termites the old dining room table, resulting in a truce – they’d eat your old furniture and leave the house frame intact.

I’m rethinking this one after the recent infestation of something called “sod webworms.” Actually, they’re not half as cool as this Spiny Orb Weaver that likes to hang out in my back yard near Halloween (he’s the only spider I actually like, and will defend):


6) Describe a top-secret project you’re working on. Better yet, describe a top secret project someone else is working on.

Because unless you’re violating an NDA, breaking several federal regulations, or sharing your patentable ideas with ridiculous amounts of generosity – it’s “vagueblogging” at best. 

5) Post a daily report of your diet failures and lack of progress.

See #12.

4) You spent how much on soy lattes last month?

Save it for your accountant. This sort of thing is not only deadly dull for your readers, but shows a distinct lack of empathy for those who, for reasons they needn’t explain to you, choose to brew their Columbian beans in a Mr. Coffee at home. And some of us are soy-intolerant, tough-as-nails writers who simply prefer ours strong and black and frou-frou free. Though, on second thought, this sort of thing never gets old:

My friend Bruce: “Grande herbal chai and a banana, please.”
Barista: “Do you know that if you eat 1,000 bananas, the radiation from ionized potassium is equivalent to a chest X-Ray?”
Bruce: “Do you know that if you eat 500 bananas, you will explode and shower Starbucks with blood and entrails?”
Barista: “Ummm… I didn’t know that.”

3) Post a list of songs on your iPod. Or CDs in your CD collection. Or albums – those big, black vinyl discs? How about books on your bookshelf? Or cleaning supplies in your cupboard? Or number of fingernail clippings (with polish shades carefully documented) you’ve saved since 1972? Who cares?

Well… I care. But only if you include detailed instructions on how to make a Voodoo Doll out of those nail clippings. 

2) Photos of your shoes. If your name’s not Imelda Marcos, your shoe fetish is just…smelly.

I am at war with shoes. And feet. And last time I posted a picture of my toes, I was a bit disturbed and perturbed to learn that there is such a thing as a “cast fetish.” WTF, people. Seriously, WTF?

1) Rant about politicians. Instead, why not rant about the lack of political activists and interested voters determined to make a difference?

It’s an election year. And a weird one. You’re excused. But the second part of this still applies – register to vote, encourage others, and get out the vote!


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Holly Jahangiri is the author of Trockle; A Puppy, Not a Guppy; Innocents & Demons; and A New Leaf for Lyle. You can find her books on Amazon at http://amazon.com/author/hollyjahangiri. For more information on her children's books, please visit http://jahangiri.us/books.
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27 thoughts on “31 Ways Not to Use Your Blog #FridayReflections”

  1. Hahahaha!! I laughed all through this! There are a lot of good points. Some of these rules I want to break deliberately. I think #30 was my favorite.
    I have so much catching up to do on blogging and reading blogs.

    1. Hi!! Well, this was a great start in your “catching up” Mia! I’m glad you enjoyed this, and I think you know me well enough to know I’m all for (creatively and deliberately) breaking silly “rules” that exist only for the purpose of having something to write about on a blog. 🙂 Be my guest. And feel free (ahem, hint, PLEASE) to link back to this post when you do it. (hugs)

  2. #31 – Office gossip (or anything else about work)

    People should be very, very careful about posting anything about work on their blog or Facebook. My policy (now) is not to do it at all. It’s hard.

    I’ve been contracting back to nuclear since I retired nearly 10 years ago. In 2012, after I had finished a contract there, I posted something on Facebook that got me blacklisted by one company for nearly 2 years. No one contacted me to ask me to take it down. I didn’t find out until I landed an 18 month contract there in January 2015 that a corporate weenie had stated that “(Mike) will never work at any _____ site again.”

    I know that most of these items are humorous. #31 was just too close to home for me.
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    1. They were written in a humorous style, but the points were serious ones. A few of them have been proven to work in spite of themselves, but you have to be brave, creative, and a little bit clever about if it you take that route.

      Now, having said that, I actually did (with permission) quote a coworker here. 🙂

      I should probably do a series of posts wherein I break every single one of these “rules.” Hah!
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  3. I can’t believe I read the whole thing. Either you’re a damned good writer or I have too much time on my hands on the first day of my hiatus from walking 15 miles per day. lol (as Mitch Mitchell would say). But, seriously, I enjoyed both the original and the comments thereupon.

    1. Either I’m a damned good writer or you’re texting while walking, which could be just about as hazardous to your health as texting while driving, given what you’re up to. 🙂 Ahh, you’re on hiatus (again)? I think I’m seeing your posts a day or two late. I knew that you were heading for another break – are you on the bus, now?

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  5. Haha..this is a great list with so many funny points..seriously..when will people start thinking twice before posting pics of their shoes or writing about their sex life 😀

    1. LOL – of course. As it should be! I wasn’t kidding when I said I might do a whole series of posts just to break every one of these rules, if I can figure out how to do it in an entertaining way that shows they CAN all work. 😉 Some, only rarely and very sparingly…

      In fact, the original post from MSN that prompted it – “31 Ways to Use Your Blog” or some such – kind of annoyed me, and this was written (originally) to parody that. It wasn’t that it came across as “rules,” but seemed condescending. I still wonder why people bother blogging if they don’t know what to write about, or why they want to blog in the first place. There are other things to do, out there, in the big wide world…
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      1. Hahahah…all right! I will endeavor to make that happen. You know, I still have to write the YA novel that “breaks all the rules” and is guaranteed to land me on the “banned and challenged” books list without having parents show up on my doorstep with torches and pitchforks. (The Bible has been on that list, so I know this is a doable goal – maybe it should be my NaNoWriMo novel one of these years.)
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  6. Well, those were intriguing! lol I’m only commenting on 3 of them though:

    27) Keep a daily journal of your food intake, household cleaning chores, and other mundane items on your to-do list.

    Actually, many of us are doing that these days on our smartphones so hopefully no one feels the need to do it on their blog… unless they’re doing an experiment & want people to follow along…

    20) List 100 things you don’t want anybody to know about you. You know, like, your deepest, darkest secrets and fears. Lay it all out there.

    That part would be pretty silly. Then again, I did post a 100 things about me list… but I’m ashamed of none of it lol

    8) Share a poem of yours.

    I did this once, as it was a Christmas poem I’d actually written more than 20 years earlier, but some years ago I had 3 posts in a row where I shared some of my favorite song lyrics that I wrote… letting everyone know they were copywritten, just in case…
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    1. 27) SparkPeople.com offers lots of tools to do just that, and a blog there would be an appropriate exception for anyone inclined to share, as the audience is mostly like-minded and interested. Unfortunately, outside of sites like SparkPeople, these food log journals tend to lead to weird fads and lengthy descriptions of what it looks like coming out the other end. SO not interested… LOL

      20) As I recall, I goaded you into that post, too. But note that was meant to be “100 GOOD things…” not “100 things I don’t want anyone to know…” I’ve never understood confiding one’s deepest, darkest fears to the INTERNET, for the love of God. I mean, my fears of spiders and needles are pretty common. I’m okay admitting to them. I would not confide the ones that truly keep me up at night. I mean, you’ve SEEN what friends and colleagues on facebook do to me when it comes to spiders… WHY would I tempt anyone to do worse? LOL

      8) Hahahah!!! I was being sarcastic on this one. Well, sort of… okay, so it’s no secret I have a love-hate relationship with poetry, including my own (90% of it sucks royally – and I leave it to the reader to decide whether I’ve ever shared anything from the other 10%). Most of it’s just SO BAD. BAD, I tell you. And we’re not supposed to say that. We’re supposed to be universally encouraging and supportive of our fellow artistes… but so. much. bad. poetry. oh. the. humanity… (It’s really, really, really bad. OK? Like, I once read a poem in Seuss-like rhyming verse about the murder of a small child. I. just. can’t.)

  7. I just love Point 11 and 14.. describe your snoring.. seriously .. actually I have read posts on this.. Thanks for bringing smile on our faces:)

    1. If you follow the link I added in there, you’ll find YouTube videos of recordings people have made of their own snoring. 😉 I don’t really understand sharing that, unless it’s symphonic and interesting, or you’re connected with your doctor on social media. But I’m not judging, either! 🙂

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